By falling under the spell of Spanish actress Ester Exposito, with whom he recently appeared in public during a little Parisian trip to the Monceau hotel, Kylian Mbappé seems to have drawn a line under his reconversion as a psychologist once his career ended. Are you saying to yourself that you don’t see the connection? And yet…
In an interview with Mouloud Achour on Canal+ in the show Clique, the world champion explained the difficulty it represented for him to find love and to form a relationship with someone from outside this crazy world, “this quagmire” as he described it to his mother, Fayza Lamari, who once asked him if he didn’t want to have a woman by his side.
“My life was built like that, I was built to live these moments. The person next to me is not necessarily ready to experience all this stuff, he confided to our Canal+ colleague. Afterwards, there are times, when you have love at first sight, you adapt and you go for it. But when you sit down and think, you say to yourself “yeah, if I live all this with someone by my side, I’m not going to be her guy, I’m going to be her psychologist! Because she’s going to say to herself “but what is this life of a mentally ill person?”
The (a) normal life of Kylian Mbappé
Because it must be said what is true, the life of Kylian Mbappé is not a normal life, that of ordinary mortals, nor even that of the majority of professional footballers who can still go shopping at the supermarket without creating riots and having to call the BIS to the rescue to exfiltrate them in one piece.
Unlike the vast majority of footballers, who marry and start a family relatively early, Mbappé has until now seemed like a UFO. And for good reason: We easily understand the reluctance that may have been his at one time, him, the icon, the phenomenon of the fair whose life is spied on, scrutinized and dissected in the smallest details, to want to take his + 1 into his golden galley.
“He happened to do some laps of the peripherals in a 206 just to see what it felt like. He can’t even walk in the street anymore. This saddens me,” lamented Fayza Lamari in the columns of Parisian last October. Very surrounded by his family in Paris, Mbappé is much less so in Madrid, where he lives in the company of his personal assistant, who recently explained in The Team how she was responsible for “filtering” the countless requests to which the French world champion may receive, including, one imagines, from the female side.
“A life that is both brilliant and very special”
Although her case is not at all comparable to that of a woman who would marry a star like Mbappé, Bérengère Outrebon, wife of former professional footballer Julien Outrebon, understands the Madrilenian’s reluctance. After yet another move to a region that was unknown to her, she decided to launch an association to help the spouses of high-level athletes.
“It’s an even different case, being Mbappé’s wife or partner is not being the wife of a simple footballer, we’re talking about an icon. But what I was able to notice through the footballers’ wives that I was able to meet is that it is both a great life and at the same time very particular due to the rhythm of the seasons, the solitude and the media coverage of the spouse, she relates. So I can’t even imagine what it must be like in Mbappé’s case! But her partner being herself more or less from that world, she is certainly more prepared than an “average” woman, in quotation marks. »
The risk of an “emotional cataclysm”
Coming out of a modest or simply anonymous environment, to enter into a relationship with a media personality, you must therefore agree to embrace both the (very) good and the (very) bad sides. To avoid exploding in flight, it is better to have an attachment to the other called “secure” and not “anxious”, as we differentiate them in couple psychology. This is what Marjorie Andréa-Mateu, who works as a therapist specializing in couples in the Paris region, explains to us.
“With secure attachment, it can work because the person will be safe even if their companion is often on the move and has a lot of media or other requests,” she describes. When we are anxious, we are always in a relationship with others, we ask a lot from them, we expect a lot from them, we want to be at the center of their universe, which can become problematic. In the case of an anxious, stressed person, being with a celebrity such as Mbappé can be a real emotional cataclysm. »
“Put yourself at the service of a profession that is not your own”
“It remains a life as a couple marked by solitude, an uprooting from where we come from, a permanent instability depending on the clubs where your husband will sign. We must put ourselves at the service of a profession that is not ours and which permanently distances the person we love from us, continues Bérangère Outrebon. And there is a second phenomenon that has appeared with social networks, that of exposure that we did not ask for. I remember the wife of an England international (Declan Rice) who was harassed and mocked on social media because she didn’t meet the beauty standards they imagined for a footballer’s wife. We’re never ready for that. »
Good thing, then, this is not the case for Ester Exposito, herself a rising star in her country since her role in the Netflix series Elite and which seems to have a bright future in the cinema. The fact remains that, as Spanish celebrity as she is, the Kyks companion cannot match her Romeo in terms of popularity on a global scale. If he assures that the celebrity press is not as interested in the life of Kylian Mbappé as one might think, Nicolas Petit, the head of information at the magazine Here iswarns us that “the danger for her is to be erased by Mbappé, or even to become “Madame Mbappé” in people’s minds. »
« It’s more the fans who will hunt them down, we saw this again recently when they both arrived in a large Parisian hotel, he continues. Even he was surprised. There are fan networks, they have WhatsApp loops to pass information to each other and track down their idol, it’s not always easy to live with. »
Until now, the player had always sought to preserve moments of intimacy prepared well in advance by those close to him, but his escapade in Sweden had shown that he must be on his guard at all times: with him, even a weekend on the sly in a discreet capital can turn into an affair of state. Like driving a Mini Cooper with a Spanish actress by your side.
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